The suffering person gets trapped by negative perception of his own creation. Negative perception keeps the pain under control, not by reducing it but by sealing out even greater pain. Anywhere that life hurts we have locked ourselves into some kind of false, powerful and secret identification.
COMPARATIVE MIND OF THE DIFFERENT (分別心)
When we indulge our desires, they tend to increase in intensity and multiply in number. We become more demanding and less content, finding it more difficult to satisfy our needs.These impulsive emotions tend to involve “mental projections” meaning that projections bring about the powerful emotional interaction between ourselves and external objects: people or things we desire.
Spiritual practice is not reading book, singing and chanting or perform some form of ritual. When relating to the subject matter, we should rely on our empirical understanding rather than on our intellectual grasp. In other words, we must ultimately develop more than mere academic knowledge of the spiritual practice. We must integrate the truths of the homage of teaching into the depths of our being, so that they become reflected in our lives.
The real you is waiting for you to connect to yourself. Self -reflection require tranquility and sincerity. Reflecting on your potential as an antidote to self-hatred. When wants are few the heart is happy. When desire ends there is peace.