Mindfulness – Simon Lau Life Guidance

MINDFULNESS

THE ART OF THE MIND.

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1) NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
Emotions without proper reason, ones that are just based on prejudice and hatred.

2. BAD HABITS
Perpetuated our pain. Keep it alive.
Self-blame, self-hatred and self-punishment.
Overwhelmed by anxiety, worry and fear.
Habits keep us trapped. Everyone knows what it means to be caught up in habitual behaviour. Life is an everyday struggle, dominated by our inability to think and behave in a new way. Habits keep married couples locked in the same argument for years.

3. BAD THOUGHTS
Repetitive thinking.Most people’s thinking is not only repetitive and useless. It causes a serious leakage of vital energy.
Magnifying our injustices in the process.
Hatred feeding.
Emotional attachment towards a particular person. Stored memories are like a video programme that keeps sending out the same message over and over.
Manipulation
Control
Denial. All these three behaviours are reactive behaviours that come after the fact. They deal with the mind’s disorder as a symptom of the distress rather than as the cause.
Guilty
Ashamed
Humiliated
Distressed

4. INNER CONFLICT
Non-negotiable conflicts
Interpersonal conflicts
Interpersonal problem
Bad habits
Blocks to learning
Destructive desires
Undisciplined or unfocused
motivation

5. INNER OPPONENT
In an interpersonal conflict, your opponent is not an individual, interpersonal problem occur in business, in the family, and in love relationship.
These are conflicts that repeat again and again because the basic interaction is unbalanced and unloving.

6. THE PROBLEM OF BOUNDARY:- NEGATIVE PERCEPTION (REALITY, IDENTITY)
A love come to you, it will become part of your identity
Love awakens the soul and bring its love in return.
Our boundaries are part of our identities.

(B) WHERE HAS ALL THIS COME FROM?

NATURE SELF (自己的本性) 跟 CONDITION SELF (習性) 發生衝突。就是
CONSCIOUSNESS (覺) 跟 \ CONFUSION (迷) 發生衝突

The suffering person gets trapped by negative perception of his own creation. Negative perception keeps the pain under control, not by reducing it but by sealing out even greater pain. Anywhere that life hurts we have locked ourselves into some kind of false, powerful and secret identification.

(C) HOW HAS THIS HAPPENED?

COMPARATIVE MIND OF THE DIFFERENT (分別心)

When we indulge our desires, they tend to increase in intensity and multiply in number. We become more demanding and less content, finding it more difficult to satisfy our needs.These impulsive emotions tend to involve “mental projections” meaning that projections bring about the powerful emotional interaction between ourselves and external objects: people or things we desire.

Intention is the real power behind desire. Intent alone is very powerful, because intent is desire without attachment to the outcome. Desire alone is weak, because desire in most people is attention with attachment.

Attachment is based on fear and insecurity, and the need for security is based on not knowing the true self. The search for security and certainty is actually an attachment to the known.

(D) WHAT SHOULD YOU DO TO SET THE MIND FREE AND BE LIBERATED?

You need to understand how it becomes trapped in the first place.

船過水無痕, 鳥飛不留影。

随相, 離相。

(E) BEING MORE MINDFUL EVERY DAY.

Learn how to breathe.
Start everyday by the things you are grateful for.
Switch technology off in your free time or when with friends.
Do not delay anything that adds laughter and joy to your life.

Do something you enjoy every day no matter how small.
Search for knowledge, read more, enjoy the moment of life without paying attention to your needs.
Eat your favorite foods and visit the places you love.
Practicing spiritual intelligence: empathy, kindness, compassion, tolerance and acceptance.

Spiritual practice is not reading book, singing and chanting or perform some form of ritual. When relating to the subject matter, we should rely on our empirical understanding rather than on our intellectual grasp. In other words, we must ultimately develop more than mere academic knowledge of the spiritual practice. We must integrate the truths of the homage of teaching into the depths of our being, so that they become reflected in our lives.

The real you is waiting for you to connect to yourself. Self -reflection require tranquility and sincerity. Reflecting on your potential as an antidote to self-hatred. When wants are few the heart is happy. When desire ends there is peace.

(F) INFLOW NEW THOUGHTS CAN REMAKE YOU.

改運思想

Inner freedom is not guided by our effort; it comes from seeing what is true.
Life isn’t about what happens to us. It is about how we perceive what happens to us.
The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your self values.

If I accept you as you are, I will make you worse; however if I treat you as though you are what you are capable of becoming, I help you become that.
Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.
If you did the right thing today, and tomorrow there will be no trouble.